Is there really such a thing as transgender children? Well, let’s look at the definition of transgender.
Someone who is transgender is a person who does not identify themselves as being the sex they were born as.
Lots of little children want to be and act like their opposite sex. Sometimes this kind of behavior is just a phase and they quickly grow out of it and begin to like and want to be the sex they were born as, but that is not always the case.
Sometimes the phase doesn’t end and identifying as their opposite sex persists and becomes more intense over time.
Children aren’t born automatically knowing whether they are a boy or girl. They learn that through the people in their environment. They naturally, at some point learn that boys have penises and girls don’t.
Many little boys eventually learn from their parents that they should like football, wear pants, and not cry like a girl.
Many little girls eventually learn from their parents that they are princesses, they should try out for the cheer leading squad, and wear dresses.
They learn these rules because most parents, without even really giving it much thought at all, tend to dress their girls in frilly pink and purple tones and give them girlish toys like baby dolls and Barbies to play with, while they dress their sons in bluejeans and t-shirts and give them trucks and baseballs to play with. And no one thinks anything of it.
So, what do you do when your sweet, little princess proudly proclaims that she’s not a girl, but a boy and wants to be the prince, then begs you to cut her hair super short and wants to throw out all her frilly, little dresses?
How do you handle it when your adorable little man proudly proclaims that he’s not a boy, but a girl and wants to be the princess and begs you to buy him the pink, lacy princess gown and that bejeweled tiara and asks to grow his hair long?
When that happens, parents suddenly find themselves in a predicament. They now have some tough decisions to make concerning how they’re going to handle a very delicate situation.
Some might advise parents faced with this issue to just tell their little lady to start acting like a girl and their son to man-up then forbid them express to their opposite gender.
But is that really a good way to handle it?
After having five boys, I finally had a little girl and you can bet that I dressed her up to the max in pink, frilly, lacy, little dresses all. the. time.
But one day she decided she didn’t like dresses anymore. She wanted to wear shorts with tractors on them. And I let her. She wanted to climb trees and wrestle with her brothers. And I let her.
She never did ask to cut off her beautiful long, curly, blonde hair though. I’m afraid that would have been a little hard for me to do!
Dressing her like a fairy princess for years did not force her to accept herself as a girl and likewise allowing her to dress and act like a boy did not make her want to be a boy.
She’s an adult now and she likes and wants to be a girl.
I must admit though, that it might have been much more difficult for me to buy my son a princess dress than it was for me to allow my daughter to dress and act like a boy.
Perhaps it’s naive and overly simplistic of me, but why not just neither encourage or discourage, and with a whole lot of unconditional, loving support permit them to work out their own gender identification while they are little and allow them to grow up into becoming whomever they may become?
One thing I do know is this…Trying to force children to change their gender identity by shaming and punishing them is cruel and damaging. This could cause depression, risky behavior, and serious mental health issues.
Sadly, I do think that the transgender life might be a harder life in some ways, but only because of how our society reacts, yet I can only imagine that hiding who you really are would be just as difficult in other ways.
Should parents allow their transgender children to begin the physical transition?
I personally don’t think that making an irreversible decision is one that parents should make for their children.
In my opinion, that is not a decision anyone can or should make for someone else.
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