Friendship Friday 6/7/13

gardening collage

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This week my husband has been working hard to get the garden all planted. He recruited Jeremiah to help with the yard work.

Rachel made an apple pie!

We’ve been having a rough time with Bethany this week too. She’s been behaving aggressively and at times has hit and kicked us, pulled our hair, and plopped her body down on the floor at Walmart, a gas station and outside in our yard! It’s been difficult to put it mildly. She has been on a new medication that’s supposed to help with that plus anxiety and OCD. The problem is that it can take up to two months to work.

Although I am not quite ready yet to do this, my husband and I have been discussing possibly sending Bethany to school. There is a brand new state of the art school for children with autism about 25 miles from us. There she could get OT, PT, Speech, art therapy and music therapy. The school uses applied behavior analysis which is very effective in extinguishing undesirable behaviors. They even have a medical clinic on site which would give me peace of mind if she had seizures there!

It’s not something that I really want to think about but we really do need to think about Bethany’s future even if it is unlikely that she’ll out live us. It could happen and we have to have a plan in place. If we died or were unable to care for her ourselves anymore she could transition to their residential school. If any of our other children want to take her in that would be the ideal situation but we don’t want them to feel obligated. She is an extremely difficult person to live with, after all! So we are formulating a 3 year plan. We’d like to have this house ready to sell, move closer to the school, and enroll her in the day school program within three years! Of course this can only happen if she is still not having many seizures by then!


22 Replies to “Friendship Friday 6/7/13

  1. Our garden is doing well in spite of the over abundance of rain this past week. I hope yours does well too. I think it’s a good idea to start planning for Bethany’s future . we too need a similar plan in place for our Joshua. Thanks for Friendship Friday (again)! betty jo

    1. We’ve had too much rain this week too! We lost a couple of tomato plants. We’re not liking the upside down planters very much. They’re difficult to work with! It’s definitely never too early to plan for the future!

  2. Thank you, thank you, for hosting! So happy I have something to link up this week! Love coming over for a visit! I’ll be back again later to check out the other bloggers’ additions!

    God bless and have a lovely day!

  3. Oh this must be a beyond difficult decision for you and Malcolm. What if you thought of it like her going to college. She will be going to better herself. She will have the therapies she needs and learn to become all she can be. I hope your 3-year plan has the success you deserve.

    Oh and if you are going to put a pie on your blog you should at least offer samples!

  4. So cool that Jeremiah helped the hubby with the yard work and the garden was planted – that pie that pie Rachel made looks absolutely scrumptious! 🙂

    So sorry you’ve been challenged by Bethany more lately – your 3 year plan sounds so wise! We have paperwork in to have our 5 year old tested for ADD, ADHD, Autism or Asperger’s (we adopted him after he was removed from my drug addicted niece’s care and had her parental rights revoked by a judge) – we don’t know what she was on before, during or after pregnancy that might have affected his psyche, but he’s certainly showing signs of any or all the spectrum’s and has been a huge challenge lately. I’ll be following your 3 year plan to see if we can learn from you about future plans for us, too! 😉 ((HUGZ!!))

    1. I didn’t realize you had a son too, Stacy! I think having him tested is a great idea. The younger he gets the proper therapies and such the better off everyone will be!

  5. I understand totally what you mean about having difficulty with a violent child. Our Alex is very big and gets violent sometimes. We worry about his future, too. If there was a school for autistic students near our home, we would send Alex to it. There just isn’t anything near us. Thank you for all your kindness and support. {hugs}

  6. Hi
    I am following you from Creative With Joy – Friendship Friday. I certainly will pray that you will be able to make the right choice. Your planning seems wise to me. I remember a minister talking to us one day – she was blind. She thanked her parents for being willing to give her up to go to a blind school where she learned to become better able to live a blind life.
    May the Lord help you, guide you and bless you in all your decisions.

  7. This makes me so sad. My son has OCD, ADHD and tics, but you have so many very, very difficult things. I know God’s grace is powerful and real, but it still makes me sad to think of all the stress and worry you endure. Praying for God’s grace to rain down and for your path to be sure. Sounds like a good plan.

  8. I just found your blog and linkup through a linked in group 🙂 We are also a homeschooling and have a special needs daughter – life is complicated and so so busy!
    Blessings to you and yours!
    Lisa from Its Own Sweet Will

  9. I’m sure it’s hard thinking about putting Bethany into school, but with all the services available and the expertise it really sounds like it’s a GOOD PLACE. Sam used to have major meltdowns (SPD overload) when he was LITTLE, so I can imagine how challenging they can be with a bigger child. You’ll know when it’s time for a change!

    1. It is hard, and actually at times I feel my knees caving in at the thought. But we aren’t getting any younger and the last 3 meltdowns have really made us think about preparing Bethany just in case the time comes when we can’t physically manage her anymore or we die. Thanks for your support, Jessy.I really do appreciate you!

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