Rages: Just in time for Summer

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Bethany expressed her desire to go shopping to buy more of the purple striped shirts that she loves so much. All of her current ones’ necklines are nearly stretched beyond being decent to wear!

My first thought about this was that they are winter shirts. They were on the clearance racks weeks ago.  Walmart has their summer clothes out now. I really didn’t think there would be any left. I attempted to prepare Bethany in advance just in case Walmart didn’t have any more of her shirts available.

Bethany was amiable and happy all the way to Walmart. She had a lovely time in the garden section looking at the flowers and in the fish section finding very groovy glow in the dark pink and green fish!




Moving along she joyfully discovered some Hello Kitty soap and a Dora the Explorer gift bag.


She purposefully and determinedly continued making her way to the women’s clothes. I was worried.

Surprisingly and quite unexpectedly the clearance rack was still on display! And would you believe that there were actually five purple striped shirts in her very own size just hanging there waiting for her to love them?!


I told her  God loved her so much that he put the shirts there just for her! I really do believe God does stuff like that to delight His children! (And besides, I thought to myself, “With all she’s been through, shouldn’t He at least do that much for her?) Yes I can be catty like that!

A great, happy, joy filled, productive, and highly spiritual day…wouldn’t you say?

After finding the shirts she had to go to the bathroom. She made a beeline for the MEN”S room and would not be dissuaded. Nothing I said could stop the downward spiral into the violent rage that ensued. She fell to the floor and sprawled out her body just inside the men’s room doorway, attempting to kick anyone who entered or exited.


Some nice man tried to help Malcolm move her out of the doorway and into a wheel chair in which we were hoping to whisk her quickly away to the car. A kicking and punching fight began. Never got her in the chair. The man seemed to feel obligated to stay with us. We thanked him for his help and let him off the hook!

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I told Malcolm to stop talking to her and to leave her alone on the floor until she got over it. His voice annoys her when she’s in such a state and makes the situation worse. (He always gets insulted when I tell him that even though he knows it.)

It took a really long time for her to recover. Many nice people stopped to ask if we needed help. Finally, she got up smiled, tickled me, and walked calmly to the car with no further incident!

Now I am afraid to take her anywhere. She is too big and strong for Malcolm to sling over his shoulder for a quick get away anymore.

This incident does not seem to have been a seizure.

Is this how we’re going to spend our summer?

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7 Replies to “Rages: Just in time for Summer

  1. Sylvia — I’m praying for you as you go about your days — for you to have the wisdom and patience to take Bethany places, and for angels (like this man in WalMart) to be there to lend a helping hand.

    God bless Bethany – I can only imagine the turmoil in her head as she goes through all of this. Hugs to you, my friend.

  2. There is a song that came to my mind while I was reading this post. It goes something like this Please be patient with me, God is not through with me yet-
    Although Bethany has Special Needs God has his hands on her everyday:) and you too.
    Keep going out, it can only get better, right?
    Discovering Montessori

  3. Sorry for the delay in reading this- I have been screen free this past week! But I am so glad you linked up with weakandloved.com last week- this is a great fit for messy mommy jobs. Parenting is messy in SO many forms, and when it’s messy in a big way in the middle of Wal Mart, UGH!

    Thank you for sharing your real trials and God’s help through them- we other mamas appreciate it so!

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