Special Needs & Homeschooling Blog LinkUp: Parenting Fail

Welcome to this week’s edition of the Special Needs & Homeschooling Blog LinkUp!  This is the place for families affected by special needs in some way and/or homeschoolers to come together, share, and support one another!

This linkup opens at 5:00 am every Friday morning and closes at 1:00 am every Monday morning.

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It has been quite an adjustment for all of us to get back into the swing of a school routine. We had been staying up way too late and sleeping in and we’re having a rough time breaking that bad habit!

Bethany seems to have felt a little better this week. We did have an incident yesterday when I wanted to go out and spend my Barnes and Noble gift card. Kristin was here playing with her but Bethany did not want me to go.

I felt bad and a little guilty for going anyway so when she asked to see my glasses I let her. This is something we do several times a day. It’s just part of her routine, She likes to wear my glasses for a few minutes and pretend she is mommy. Then she gives them right back to me, no problem.

I had a feeling that it wasn’t really a good idea this time though. I should have listened to my gut instinct, but like I said, I was feeling guilty and I just wanted to leave her on a happy note.  My instincts were correct because she refused to give them back to me. We had to take them away from her which caused  a meltdown complete with kicking, hitting, and throwing her games all over the floor.

I felt like I had sent her up for that one and that’s an awful feeling. She might not have melted down if I hadn’t let her have my glasses in the first place. Yet on the other hand she was already mad so she might have had one when I left anyway. Who knows?

But I feel like I could have and should have avoided that meltdown and that the whole incident was a major parenting fail on my part. I believe that avoiding her  triggers is the best strategy for avoiding her meltdowns at least until we come up with a better strategy. So I really feel like this one was my fault.

I felt much better after I came back home and found Bethany happily playing with Kristin and happy to see me too. Kristin said that Bethany had cleaned up her mess with no problems and after having a mildly bad attitude for about a half an hour she told her that she would be good now and that was the end of that, Thank goodness!

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Jeremiah is reluctantly getting back into Algebra. He’s been working on monomials and polynomials this week. I must say that both of us find coming up with algebraic equations based on information from word problems very difficult and extremely distasteful! You’d think that after doing Algebra with my other kids seven times already I’d be an expert at it by now. Unfortunately for both of us, that’s not the case though. I’ll be glad when we get to Geometry.

We are both finding Ancient Chinese History much more interesting! I’ve also been reading a select few of Shakespeare’s sonnets aloud to Jerry as well as the autobiography of Frederick Douglas, which is heartbreaking I might add. I nearly cry out loud while reading it. I will never in my life understand how anyone can justify slavery and such cruel and inhumane treatment of others.

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In case you’re interested!
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Now it’s your turn.  How was your week?  I hope it was a great one!

4 Replies to “Special Needs & Homeschooling Blog LinkUp: Parenting Fail

  1. I’m sorry to hear about Bethany’s meltdown, but I’m glad it all ended well. Glad things are going well for school. S and I prefer Algebra over Geometry, and my other son is a bigger fan of Geometry.

  2. There are times that you just can’t avoid the meltdown no matter what choice you make. Even with Amber at times I have that issue and I tell her, “I’m not going to win no matter what I choose, so just have your fit or straighten out.” I know that doesn’t work with Bethany. You do such a great job with her, but even so there will be times that you can’t prevent the meltdown. I hope this coming week is a good one for you.

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