Why did God let Bethany get so sick that she nearly died? Why did He allow her to become multiply disabled? Why has He let her suffer so miserably more often than not? Why hasn’t He healed her?
Why does God allow ANY child to get sick, be disabled, go hungry, be abused, be kidnapped, suffer, die or even be murdered?
NOT BECAUSE THEIR PARENTS NEED TO LEARN A VALUABLE LESSON!!!
I’ve heard that statement spoken by many well meaning people over the years. I’m sorry, but I just don’t buy that theory.
Plus that is not a comforting statement to make to a parent of a suffering child…Not in my opinion, anyway.
I do not believe that my merciful and loving God would allow Bethany to be sick, disabled or suffer in order to teach me or my husband a lesson.
I do not believe that God would make any child suffer anything to teach their parents a lesson.
Even so, I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve definitely learned a lesson or two from the experience of having a daughter with a devastating illness and disabilities. Every parent of every child who has ever suffered has undoubtedly learned a few lessons along the way. It would be impossible no to.
Now, I could be wrong here but, If any of us parents needed to learn a lesson that badly, if God wanted to get our attention that badly…wouldn’t it make more sense for God to cause us, ourselves to be the ones doing the suffering?
Saying that children get sick, suffer, and die because their parents need to learn a lesson is like saying that it’s the parents’ fault that their child is suffering! That’s a hell of a burden to put on a parent!
I WOULD RATHER DO MY OWN SUFFERING TO LEARN MY OWN LESSONS, THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!
I’m also fairly certain that any parent would feel the same way.
Another thing that many well meaning spiritual people have quoted to us is Romans 8: 28- “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
I’m sorry, once again- but that is NOT a comforting thing to say to a parent of a suffering child…At least not this parent of a suffering child!
I DON’T WANT MY DAUGHTER TO SUFFER BECAUSE GOD IS TRYING TO DEMONSTRATE THE TRUTH OF THAT VERSE TO THE WORLD!
But, I will admit that some good things have happened that might very well never have happened if Bethany had not gotten sick!
I’ve also heard some parents of sick, disabled, or suffering children spout out that their child’s condition was a blessing! I am sorry, but that is not a super spiritual thing to say.
THAT IS A SUPER STUPID THING TO SAY!! AND IT IS A LIE! IT IS SOOOOO NOT A BLESSING FOR ANYONE, ESPECIALLY THE CHILD WHO IS SICK, SUFFERING , OR DYING!! PERIOD!
Imagine how a parent saying that in the presence of their sick and suffering child would make them feel!
Although, I will be the first to admit that one can be blessed in the midst of a medical crisis.
Many parents of disabled or ill children have said that even if they could they wouldn’t change anything at all about what happened to their child.
I’M SORRY, BUT I’M NOT THAT NOBLE!!
If I could turn back time and change the series of events that nearly killed my daughter, caused her to suffer torture upon torture in brain cancer treatments, and caused her to have multiple permanent disabilities….I WOULD ERASE EVERY. LAST. PAINFUL. TRAUMATIC. FRIGHTENING DETAIL!!
I have no idea why God allows bad things to happen to innocent children. I don’t think anyone really does…not really. We can pretend to understand to sound spiritual. We can try to rationalize why and explain it using scripture verses…but I still don’t think anyone really understands why.
BUT WE CAN THROUGH FAITH BELIEVE THAT OUR LOVING AND MERCIFUL GOD LOVES OUR CHILDREN.
WE CAN THROUGH FAITH BELIEVE THAT GOD DOES HAVE A GOOD REASON.
WE CAN THROUGH FAITH BELIEVE THAT GOD REALLY DOES KNOW WHAT’S BEST FOR OUR CHILDREN, THAT HIS PLAN IS PERFECT, AND THAT HE HAS EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL
WE CAN THROUGH FAITH BELIEVE THAT SOMEDAY OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN WILL NEVER, EVER SUFFER AGAIN AND WHEN WE ALL GET TO HEAVEN WE WILL UNDERSTAND AND IT WILL ALL MAKE PERFECT SENSE!!!
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